I know this is a lot of reading material to dump on you. It is a wide and spidery response to what is a well intentioned question. I am trying to condense my thoughts on it... When people are in a minority, they deal with things every day, that you don't even know are there. Society exerts pressures upon them. It's not about individuals hurting other individuals, its a system that we're all stuck in, and the system is hurting people. They need places they can go that are outside of the system. Does that make sense?
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Date: 2009-09-21 02:49 am (UTC)Basics, but a bit firmly worded:
http://community.livejournal.com/feminist/1362470.html
Allies in feminism (I just skimmed this):
http://www.thefword.org.uk/features/2008/06/men_feminism_ne
The one I was thinking of, I think. Even among feminists, everyone is not coming from the same space. Sometimes its better to step back and just listen, even if you think you know the answer and are just trying to help.
http://blog.shrub.com/archives/tekanji/2008-04-22_710#comments
Followup:
http://blog.shrub.com/archives/tekanji/2008-04-26_712
Although I think the most important one is probably about the invisible backpack:
http://brown-betty.livejournal.com/305643.html
I know this is a lot of reading material to dump on you. It is a wide and spidery response to what is a well intentioned question. I am trying to condense my thoughts on it... When people are in a minority, they deal with things every day, that you don't even know are there. Society exerts pressures upon them. It's not about individuals hurting other individuals, its a system that we're all stuck in, and the system is hurting people. They need places they can go that are outside of the system. Does that make sense?